It’s Not You, It’s Me: Lord, Fix Me Before I Point My Finger

The "Under Construction" Vision:

At B. Reed Coaching, we embrace the theme "Under Construction," recognizing that personal and professional growth is a continuous journey. Just as we build and improve structures, we can also build resilience, emotional intelligence, and stronger relationships.

What if the person who needs healing the most… is the one in your mirror?

In a world quick to point fingers and slow to self-reflect, It’s Not You, It’s Me delivers a powerful reminder: self-awareness isn’t just a personal growth buzzword—it’s a spiritual discipline.

Blending biblical insight, relatable coaching stories, and faith-based emotional intelligence strategies, this Christian life coaching book challenges readers to examine their emotional reactions, projection habits, and hidden pride. Through humor, heart, and Holy Spirit truth, readers will learn how to take responsibility for their emotional well-being without shame or guilt.

Each chapter guides you through a powerful transformation process using the CCR Model of Clarity, Confidence, and Resilience, with real coaching activities, prayers, and Q&A reflections to support lasting growth.

Whether you’re a leader, a believer, or someone just tired of walking in circles with people and pain, this book is for you.

You’ll learn how to:

Perfect for individual study, women’s ministries, or Christian life coaching programs, It’s Not You, It’s Me helps Believers do the internal work that leads to external peace.